When women are too hard on themselves.
Written by LauraBeth Ryan
You know, I’ve come to realize that the missing link in life is the kindness we show towards ourselves. Going through cancer for three long years was tough, but now I’m grateful to be back at work, though my company had to be put on hold again. I want people to understand that it’s alright to press pause on life when needed. Even though it might not feel okay, it doesn’t mean we can’t bounce back even stronger. Sometimes, we just need to learn to go with the flow and accept the situation.
I used to get so frustrated with the challenges and flares I faced, and it would often lead to depression. But I’ve learned the hard way that fighting against it doesn’t help at all; in fact, it makes things worse. So, I’ve started to embrace a more accepting approach, just like you mentioned. It’s incredible how that shift in mindset has helped me cope better.
In the workforce, I’ve noticed that many women put on a brave face and keep going even when they’re internally struggling. They keep pushing, and it’s something I used to do too. I’ve had clients who seemingly had it all – success, wealth, and recognition – but deep down, they felt empty. It was as if they had been chasing an illusion all along.
The thing is, it’s never a waste of time to go after your dreams and work hard, even if it doesn’t turn out as expected. Because when you decide to invest that energy in yourself and your true passions, something magical happens. You realize that all those skills and experiences gained during your journey to success can be redirected to serve not just yourself but the people you want to help. It’s like a rebirth, and it brings new purpose and fulfillment.
I’ve also discovered the importance of slowing down and taking care of myself. Overworking used to make me a not-so-nice person. I’d snap at people and not even realize it. But now, after going through so much, I’ve become more aware of my emotions and the need to take breaks. I’ve learned that rest is not laziness; it’s essential for our well-being.
It’s true; we women tend to feel guilty if we take time for ourselves or do something nice just for us. We’ve become our own slave laborers, and it’s time to break free from that mindset. Treating ourselves with kindness and love doesn’t make us selfish; it actually helps us become better at giving love and support to those around us.
So, I want to encourage everyone to embrace self-kindness and follow their true passions. Life is too short to chase illusions, and neglect ourselves in the process. Let’s slow down, find our purpose, and give ourselves the love and care we deserve. In doing so, we can create a more fulfilling and compassionate life, not just for ourselves but for others too.
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